Couples Therapy Singapore
Love, Respect
and
Shared Purpose
in relationships
Gottman Method of Couples Therapy Benefits
Rekindle friendship
Acquire strategies to handle differences in relationships
Having a shared purpose for the relationship
A Safe Space for Therapy
"I find Bernadette to be knowledgeable in her field of work, compassionate and gentle in her approach, real and practical in her suggested tools and resources, and very encouraging and approachable as a person." - LN, Life Coach
Patterns in Wounded Relationships
"another failed attempt at dating after a couple of years hiatus, and I found myself hurt, confused, and exasperated. I noticed a pattern, but yet I didn’t know how to get myself out of it." - TE, Career Counsellor
How Might We Maintain A Loving and Healthy Relationship?
Rekindle friendship and appreciate acts of love by learning to bid and communicate well. Identify bridges of common ground to build a life of shared purpose. Finally, form strategies to turn to each other despite the differences.
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We do these in a structured assessment and intervention process by which time you would be able to identify styles of positive and negative communication, the unmet needs creating the tension in relationship and form clarity on each partner's views about their perceived differences. We facilitate the strategy
Couples Therapy in Singapore
You've made the decision to love, to have a life giving marriage, or you are about to commit in a long term relationship but unresolved differences remain. Something feels missing in the relationship.
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Learn strategies to bridge these differences in your relationship, with Bernadette Chin a Gottman-trained couple therapist.
Practice research based skills to deepen emotional connection and learn methods to replace negative conflict patterns for a rekindled friendship and a life of shared purpose.
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Couples therapy is a process of:
1. Building common ground of mutual love and respect and joint contribution towards a shared purpose
2. Understanding the differences that exist because each spouse is uniquely different
3. Developing strategies to deal with such differences
4. Healing past wounds
Reversing Negative Communication Styles
Anger in relationships lead to contempt. Gottman's research highlighted 4 negative communication styles causing differences to be amplified. The walls build division and bridges build restoration. Bridges of shared purpose and rekindled friendship are fundamental ways to rebuild a sound relationship.
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Work with us to help you and your partner, communicate better in a process of learning about your needs, your partner's needs and how to bid well.
Gottman Couple Therapy
A relationship between a couple is meant to nourish and give life. It is the most important relationship a person will have in their lifetime. Yet, we were never taught how to build, nurture and protect such a significant relationship, be it in school or from looking at our own parents.
More so, we often get distorted, disillusioned or even unrealistic versions from the media. Couple Therapy is a process that addresses the mental, emotional, spiritual and sexual needs of two people coming together to build a lasting and fulfilling relationship. Using the work of Dr John and Julie Gottman, couples identify their strengths and areas of improvement.
With an enhanced awareness and desire to change, we can break free of what no longer works when interacting with the other person. We will explore
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how your childhood can affect your marriage
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your attachment style, a key element in a person's ability to bond and form long-term relationships; and
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your past relationship baggage.
It will be a safe platform to
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learn how to effectively manage conflict, which is part and parcel of life
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reconnect deeply and re- establish security, trust and commitment
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express your heartfelt needs and desires to build a shared meaning of a life together
I strongly suggest you do the work to make your marriage great, especially if you have children, a happy, healthy and thriving relationship is the best gift for them!
More about the Gottman Method of Couples Therapy
Assessment
Couples work with the therapist to discover how they work together in the relationship, who they are as individuals and then receive detailed feedback on their relationship.
Therapeutic interventions
Interventions may be required to help couples strengthen their relationships in 1) friendship, 2) conflict management, and 3) creation of shared meaning.
Personal & couple development
Couples learn to replace negative conflict patterns with positive interactions and to repair past hurts.
In this process, you and your partner improve friendship, deepen emotional connectedness and forge shared dreams and aspirations for the relationship and those whom you love.
Couple Therapy FAQs
How much does couple counselling cost in Singapore?
The cost of couples counselling in Singapore ranges from $0 to $300. My Inner Child Clinic charges $300 for the Gottman Couple Therapy session. We are highly experienced trained psychotherapists in the Gottman Method for couple therapy, and our Senior Psychotherapist was pivotal in the training of Singapore's Gottman therapists. More details below.
What is the success rate of couples therapy?
Relationship building is a decision to love. Couples who decide to jointly build bridges of friendship and develop habits of connecting despite permanent differences have successful relationships. My Inner Child Clinic has a 90% success rate and with God's grace, we pray for our couples to continue to do the work of loving and building friendship between each other.
How long should couples therapy last?
Most couples come for 3 session for the assessment phase and another 3 to 5 sessions depending on the intervention or therapy goal. The therapist will normally have separate sessions with each individual. Our identity, values, thoughts and belief are often shaped by our lived experiences and in some cases childhood wounds and traumatic experiences. Couple therapy is also an inroad to a deeper understanding and healing of your inner child.
Will couples therapy save my marriage?
Research shows that therapy has helped improve the chances of success in marriages. The Gottman Method demonstrated significant improvements in couple communication, resulting in positive emotions, better relationships and improved problem solving behaviours. This is based on a study by Coie et al. (1993).
How would I know when to stop couples therapy?
Couples who decide to stop their couples therapy either have overcame persistent personality differences through problem-solving and building bridges of connection, or they decided that the relationship wouldn't work. Based on research, Gottman was able to predict with 90% accuracy if the rmarriage will end up in divorce. Having clarity on relationships may also be helpful for couples.
Couple Therapy Pricing
Couples Therapy sessions with My Inner Child Clinic is priced at $300 per session. This includes the Gottman assessment. In the first session, couples should be able to gain clarity on their differences and where to build the bridges of connection and friendship.
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Our Senior Psychotherapist Dawn, is a certified level 3 Gottman Couple Therapist and was formerly, Head of Counselling at Gottman Institute's official Singapore partner for training therapists to be certified Gottman Couple Therapists. Dawn is highly experienced and has helped build the foundations for marriage counsellors and couples therapists in Singapore, so that all couples have the right support and help in their relationships.
300 Singapore dollars
Our Relationship Therapists
Ms Bernadette Chin
Principal Therapist
Ms Dawn Tan
Senior Therapist
Meet Bernadette and Dawn, psychotherapists at My Inner Child Healing. Founded by Ms Bernadette Chin, My Inner Child Clinic places relationships close to our hearts. We are social beings and nurturing a healthy relationship with self, loved ones and people we work with is integral to well-being and social engagement. We have hence worked with a team of experienced psychotherapists and coaches who are like-minded. Ms Dawn Tan is one such member. Dawn finds a sense of purpose in working with couples and youths build healthy boundaries, form loving relationships and develop a strong sense of self.
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Work with us, contact us to find out more, or make a booking for your psychotherapy.